on not overdoing it and finding a little balance


When I find something I love, I dive right in and never look back. I’m sure that on some level, you can all relate, whether with a hobby, job, relationship, or workout routine. But I didn’t do it with just one thing.

I went from living at my mom’s house in LA to running a business from my own apartment in a new city and then launched a second business that I had dreamed of for years and found this awesome workout that made me feel amazing. Life went from pretty crappy to pretty awesome. Sure, I had my moments of loneliness and my share of struggles (don’t we all?), but I was much, much happier. I did deal with some stress and anxiety, but it’s gotten so much better. For the first time in a while, I am truly happy.

I don’t know what it was, but everything was so much more extreme than it needed to be. I dove face first into work, a relationship and went a little nuts with my workouts 5x a week. You can only function that way for so long until things begin to feel awful.

I swear there will be a point to this post, so hang in there.

Looking back, I was so obsessed with CrossFit that I couldn’t see clearly, and everyone (and I do mean everyone) who had ever met me or heard of me knew about it. I was all “crossfit is the best I love it everyone should do it there’s nothing better crossfit crossfit crossfit crossfit and also paleo is the best and everything should be paleo and I’m going to hashtag it every five minutes.”

I’ll bet that was annoying. Sorry, guys.

I still love CrossFit. I definitely don’t think it’s for everyone, but it’s great for me. And now I’m more like, “I really like CrossFit” and then I just stop talking. Fun, right? I’m still paleo, too, but don’t think it’s the only healthy way to go. It works for me, but I don’t need to talk about it all the time. I’ve come a long way from the time I checked in every time I hit a new PR or any time I worked out. I’ve found a little balance, and it feels so good.

Earlier this summer, I tried scaling back with cf and added spinning (which I loved) and sweat on state (cf without heavy lifting) to see how I’d feel. In the end, I missed lifting, but the fact that I got to a point where I’d even entertain the idea says a lot. I get excited about hitting new PRs, but I don’t push myself the way I used to. I focus on what I’m good at (pull-ups and toes to bar) and stopped caring about weight lifting altogether. I like it, but don’t care about going heavy.

I cheated on paleo a lot this summer and didn’t give it a second thought. Drinking on patios is fun, especially when there’s a taco or some fried chicken. Or french fries. And also, I really like ice cream cones. I started my 2nd paleo challenge on the 2nd, but it feels so unbelievably different this time. No, I’m not really drinking alcohol right now (I know, I know. So boring.) and yes, I’m eating strict paleo. Still working out, but it’s just different.

I overdid it, guys. I pushed too hard. I compared myself to others. But time passed, I grew up, and I learned a thing or two. That’s what life is about, right? I wrote this post because I want you to take some time to think about who and what you give yourself to. About what you value and why. If I can find “balance” anyone can. I’m working out to be the strongest and healthiest version of myself that I can.

What are you struggling with? What are you looking to improve or change?

“The person who doesn’t make mistakes is unlikely to make anything”

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  • I feel like crossfit has that effect on people. I don't doubt that it's great, but I have a few friends who take it to the extreme and almost make me feel like an outsider because I don't participate. I appreciate your honesty 🙂 Life is all about finding a healthy balance and that's something I'm still working toward today. I'm struggling with balancing what I eat with my workouts. A lot of times I find myself justifying a bad indulgence "because I worked out" but I'm slowly realizing this isn't going to get me to my goals. Thanks for letting me vent a little 😉

    I hope you have a great weekend!

  • good for you! i too am a full throttle person (perfectionists)! i go and go, until i crash. i also have the tendency to attempt to master EVERY endeavor i set my mind too. here's to moderation! here's to easing up on ourselves! 🙂

  • Love how honest this post is! We all struggle with little things but finding that balance after struggling is always the best feeling. I struggle with stress and thinking too far ahead. 🙂

  • I'm with you on the diving right in thing…but my fitness obsessions only last a few weeks, then I think I've nailed the whole thing, slack off and have to start diving in again – peaks and troughs…isn't that what life is all about?


  • hey i know that crossfit girl! i still liked her! i am really proud of you for finding a balance and being happy. i am trying so hard to find a balance lately, but i think it's because i have too much stuff on my plate. i went from not doing much to doing everything.

  • Danielle, I love that you wrote this post!! Your blog is one of the first I ever truly found and it made me want to start one of my own. I've always loved your content, but I do remember when things got really crossfit-and-paleo heavy. As a vegetarian for both personal reasons and health reasons, I had to come to grips with the fact that it's right for me, but may not be right for everyone, and I have to remember I can't convince other people that what I'm doing is the best and they should, too. I think what's most important is that we acknowledge what's best for us as individuals, both mentally and physically. I appreciate that you are so health-conscious, and I'm glad you are finding balance in your life 🙂

    Blonde in this City