I used to wish that Conor and I had a romantic story about how we met. You know – a meet cute straight out of The Holiday. I shared the story of how we met earlier this year but now that our wedding weekend is one month away, thought now would be a good time to share it again.
Why? Because dating is not easy, and these stories are the ones that need to be told.
We met on Tinder.
It was the middle of May ’15 but finally felt like summer and I was at the pool with my friend and wedding photographer Katie. I had just downloaded Tinder after going on a break again, and quickly matched with Conor. If you’re not familiar with Tinder, you’re able to see the friends you have in common on Facebook. He knew Liz and Alaina!
I wish I had our original messages but I didn’t save them. But we started messaging and I sent Alaina a text to get any possible info she might have on this guy. His instagram profile was private at the time so she sent a bunch of screen shots and said I should definitely go out with him. She assumed we had met at our yard sale 3 days prior since Conor had stopped by, but I was out on a coffee run and missed him.
Conor and Alaina were friends on Facebook so he knew what The Everygirl was which saved me me from having to explain what I do and how I make money on a first date. Or from dodging what I do since a quick google search will land you on my blog and inside my home. Super awkward when dating. And more important, I knew he wasn’t a serial killer and let him pick me up at my place, which made things feel a lot more first datey.
We went to Sportsman’s Club for drinks and after a few hours of talking, ended up getting dinner at The Dawson. I heard from him the next day and the following evening, he came to a concert with me and a few friends. Conor canceled a date with another girl that weekend and we both deleted tinder, and 4 days after we met, I met his mom and stepdad. I know, I know. He happened to have plans with them and we had spend the whole day together, so he invited me to join. I didn’t have plans and knew the guy 4 days, so why not?
I never wondered if he was interested or when I’d hear from him. Ever. Not once did I pine over reaching out and I’m a serial piner. But really, one of my friends calls me a pine tree. No one is too busy to text or call you for a week. If someone is interested and wants to see you, they’re going to see you.
We actually told people we met at a yard sale those first few months but eventually embraced our story. So much of my life is online that it would make sense I’d meet someone that way, right? I know how exhausting dating and apps and deciphering texts can be, and my story is a reminder that these apps do work.
Our relationship is obviously not perfect and we’ve had our bumps in the road like all couples do, but the past almost 2.5 years have been the best years of my life. We lived 5 minutes from one another and he was at my yard sale, but it took Tinder for us to meet. Our own modern day meet cute.