Self Improvement

do less. let’s try this again.

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My name is Danielle, and I am addicted to social media. That may sound a little extreme, but it’s kind of true. Need proof? See the photo above. In my defense, I was instagramming something for The Everygirl while at a work event, so I get a pass on this one.

Being connected isn’t always a bad thing, but there are times that
it has made me far too disconnected from everything around me. Interesting, yes? I need to be able to tweet and instagram for The Everygirl and I love posting the occasional (understatement of the year) photo of Buddy because who doesn’t love that guy? But I
never log on to Facebook for work. That said, I am always checking in at CrossFit and updating my status on while I’m out. You know, out. Trying to enjoy my life, my friends, and new experiences.

I checked my friends and myself in to a restaurant like I normally would on Tuesday night. It only took a minute away from time with my friends, but one of them noticed I was on my phone and asked what I was doing. I quickly realized that I was not any less disconnected than I promised myself I’d be just over a month ago. I’m another year older, so I should be a little wiser.

This got me thinking. Why am I updating my status? If I’m at CrossFit or with friends, why not just live in the moment and if something really interesting happens, post about it later? And let’s face it–me checking in to CrossFit is like checking in to Chicago. Completely pointless and obvious. Yeah. I just said that.

So I checked us in to the restaurant and then I did it. I deleted Facebook off my cell phone. The fact that my friends seemed shocked and said it wouldn’t last made me realize how much I needed to do this. I can’t say I’ll keep it off of my phone forever, but I’m pretty committed to this for now, and if I do add it back things will be different. Very different. And it’s not like I closed my account–I will just now only log on from my computer. I’m fairly certain I can handle this.

So instead of posting that I front squatted with Danica Patrick while at CrossFit yesterday (we shared a bar and rack), I enjoyed walking and talking with my friend Jen, got home, and then didn’t even feel the need to share this information on Facebook. I did text my cf friends because I knew they’d appreciate it, but that was it. I also just shared this info here, but see how I can not post on Facebook and still keep people in the loop? So magical.

This may seem ridiculous to some of you, but almost everyone I know is pretty connected to social media. I’m going to set some goals to post to instagram a bit less, and am already thinking of other ways to scale back, because I am finally doing less. And I like it.

What can you do to do less? Do you have Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram? If so, how often do you post? How can you disconnect from social media?

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  • good for you! i recently deleted instagram, twitter and FB off my phone and manage all my work social media through hoot suite. originally i was only going to do it for a week but i'm coming up on 3 weeks now! it is refreshing to not be so locked into your phone!

  • I had this same conversation last night. I ended up getting so overwhelmed and saying to my bf… THERE IS JUST TOO MUCH INFORMATION BEING THROWN AT ME! I feel like I can't even consume all of it.

    It's odd when you are so connected that you lose a real connection.

    I'm investigating ways to strategically tailor my social media involvement as well. 🙂

  • I thought social media and email were encroaching on my life a little too much, so I decided to get rid of my smart phone. It is amazing how much the battery of a regular phone lasts! I have an iPad so if I need social media, I have access to it. But having just a regular phone has been so nice. Instead of taking phone pictures, I use my actual camera. I've been able to read more, and just felt a lot less stress.

    Have you seen this short documentary about social media and our lives: http://gawker.com/short-film-about-smartphone-overuse-is-smart-poignant-1189811144?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

    Lindsay

  • I have the same problem – too often I am spending time documenting my "fun" than actually enjoying it. Love our smart phones but they do pose problems. Great idea to delete FB off your phone.

  • i deleted my facebook from my phone AND foursquare a while ago because i just couldn't maintain that level of disconnectedness from the REAL world. it so helped. best of luck to you
    kw ladies in navy

  • Girl, I'm almost ONE month now off of facebook and don't have it on my phone or anything and never get on it from the computer. I deleted my twitter well over a year ago, and so all I do now is instagram. And I'm realizing I don't even miss it that much. It has been totally liberating and you're amazed at how less cluttered your mind feels. Good for you, proud of you 🙂

  • I think it's a great goal! I don't use Facebook more than what I have to for work, but Instagram is a whole different thing. I hate to admit it, but I check it before I go to bed, when I wake up in the morning and plenty of times during the day. I blame it on being a visual person, ha!

    blair @ the fox and she

  • I took FB off my phone a long time ago and it is awesome. I don't get notifications every couple of minutes for something stupid. I will get on in the morning before I start my day or at night when I end my day. I like it that way. I'd like to use it even less!! FB is just bleh anyway.

    I Instagram and Tweet, but not that much. I think I have good control over that one. I'd like to start have social media free weekends.

    I read in the evenings. I give myself one hour on the computer and then I read. I LOVE IT!!!

  • Okay we must be on the same wavelength here because just this week I had the same wake up call with my social media use. I'm not really a facebook fan, but I check twitter and instagram all. the. time. This week I've been trying to look at both sites less while at work, when I'm at home at night, and when I'm with friends. I don't have plans to delete either app anytime soon, but instead of updating my feeds constantly, I'm going to try to do it only a few times a day.

    Thanks for the reminder, Danielle! And please continue to post conversations with your Great Aunt Rose, because those are the best. 🙂

  • Although it's still on my phone, I recently deleted almost half of my FB friends because it suddenly felt strange to be broadcasting things to people that I haven't seen in almost 10 years and probably wouldn't walk across a room to greet if I saw them today. I was feeling obligated to keep people entertained and up-to-date on my life, and I resented the pressure I put on myself so I just stopped doing it. One month later, I'm a sporadic FB poster and I don't try to keep up with everything in the feed, and it's great. I try to keep my phone in my purse while I'm out, and that's the main hurdle, since it's not there to tempt me.

  • i usually try to put my phone away when i am out with my friends. none of my friends blog or even understand it, most don't have any other social media other than facebook, so trying to explain to them why i just took a picture of the restaurant or my food is pretty hard.

  • Love this! I've always felt not everything needs to be shared on social media. Get out there and truly enjoy what you are doing! Instead of posting about and proclaiming you love your life! God, I hate when people say that…

  • I feel the same way about social media, and it's honestly such a hard habit to break not to feel like every minor thing needs to be captured in an Instagram or a FB status. I think a lot of people, bloggers especially, can relate to just how difficult it is to find a balance when it comes to this issue! You're definitely not alone! xoxo

  • I'm trying to scale back on the social media usage too. I really want to try and share a little bit less and keep some aspects of life just for me. I've been skimping on Facebook usage anyway; but Twitter and Instagram still have me in their clutches!

    Ashley
    http://allthatglitters.co.nr

  • Love this post and I need to do the same! My experience has been similar when I left my phone behind… by the time I get to it, I'm not as eager to share!

  • I love this! That is awesome that you deleted it from your phone, you seriously have me considering it too. I love IG and don't think I'll be ditching that, but I agree…why check-in an be in the constant stream of info when you probably are missing the big picture in front of you. I think "less" is exactly what we all need. Thanks for sharing!

  • Having things on your phone definitely amps up the connectivity. You'll never escape if it's always with you. Even keeping my phone in my bag instead of in my pocket over the course of the day does a lot. It will prevent me from reaching into my pocket to check something and keep me focused on what I'm doing in the moment.

  • I love this post! I actually made myself deactivate my facebook for a week once in order to disconnect. Since then I have checked my facebook less. I have also taken it off my favorites on my web browser… I notice that if I see it less then I tend to forget about checking it!

  • I'm always on my social media. Ever a free moment? On it. Right before bed? On it. Sometimes it's great, sometimes not so much. I especially feel I should be placing my phone as far away as possible when trying to wind down for the night but I don't. I always want to, I always have an urge to be present and live in the moment but I often ignore the thought. I think it's high time I get off the social media train all the time. Once a while sounds perfect to me. Thank you for the reminder!

    Cheers!
    Akshara
    Simply Akshara

  • Good for you! I love that you did that. I am all about social media to a point but it can totally get ridiculous and distracting. I don't even have a facebook for that reason b/c my friends that do are so addicted and I do not want to be that person. Hope this can last as long as you want it! Good luck!