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This Year // 2013

I’m not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. In fact–I don’t really make them. I prefer to create a list of goals for the year. Some I know I’ll accomplish (or work my ass off trying) and others I hope to accomplish. I did not do everything on my ’12 list but feel very good about the things I did do. And that’s what it’s all about. Making each year better than the last.We make these big statements–I’ll work out every single day, not eat any sugar, etc. and then beat ourselves up when we fail. A friend sent me one of those someecards that said: I’m opening a gym called resolutions. It will have exercise equipment the first 2 weeks and then turn into a bar for the rest of the year. I spent years saying I’d work out and when I found the right thing for me , I stuck with it. And even though I follow a mostly paleo diet, saying I’ll never have any sugar, never indulge on dessert, or never splurge on pizza is crazy. If that works for you, I’d like to know your secret. Jess Lively just wrote something for The Everygirl on this topic, and if you are a person that makes resolutions or goals, I encourage you to read it.One of my goals for ’12 was to end up in the same city as my ex. I went back and deleted that portion of the post after we broke up but wish I hadn’t because it serves as a reminder that we aren’t always supposed to have everything we think we want. This relationship ended up being one of those things I wanted so badly, but I know in my heart that it was not meant to be.

2012 was a great year. I was put to the test–heartbreak and running two businesses among other things. I learned what it really means to be overworked. But there was more good than bad, and the good was…well–pretty damn amazing. We launched The Everygirl. We set out to inspire girls, and thanks to our amazing features and contributors (and lots of hard work), we’ve been able to do just that. We worked with Banana Republic, Kate Spade, Gap, Career Builder, and The Home Depot (among others) and were featured in Chicago Home and Garden, Glitter Guide, and just four months after launching the site, we made it to Forbes. After trying to figure out a workout routine for 10 years, I found CrossFit. My old apartment was featured in Rue Magazine, and I moved to a new place (which will be featured on TEG and another site in the next few months). I can say without any uncertainty that in spite of the
struggles I’ve gone through, it just keeps getting better.

I like to view the new year as a fresh start. A chance to organize,
move on from the things that didn’t go so well, and look forward to better things in the coming year. I spent most of the weekend organizing my home. I worked out. I am ready for a fresh start. Ready to give it my all and make ’13 the best year of my life. So here it is. My list of goals for 2013.

Grow The Everygirl
I have some big dreams for TEG. There is still so much we’d like to do and I am so excited to see where ’13 takes us.

Continue to work it
I have some big goals for CrossFit including a 100+ lb. push press, handstand push-ups, double unders, and Rx WODs. Full post on this coming tomorrow. I am also back on the paleo challenge with Gina, Maxine, and Bri! I have a little stomach bug and can only really eat crackers and soup right now (not paleo) so I start tomorrow. If any readers want to join in, please email me!

Challenge myself
I’ve stepped outside my comfort zone a lot the past few years–moved
to Chicago, started a second business, started trying all kinds of
different foods (this was a big one for me), weight lifting/a type of exercise that scared the hell
out of me etc. and I would like to continue to push myself in ’13. This means learning the ins and outs of my camera, actually using my camera instead of always relying on my iPhone, and not just finding a few recipes and repeating them over and over (I am so guilty of this) among other things. I would also like to continue to do my best to be this honest with all of you when I can.Travel

I had a goal to make it to Paris and London by my 30th last September but sadly, it didn’t happen. New goal is to make it there by Sept 17–before I turn 31. I have my travel buddy (shocker) selected and everything. I’d also love
to go to Mexico (or anywhere tropical that involves me unplugging from
everything). I need a vacation so badly.

Read the classics
I’d love to re-read The Great Gatsby and want to read a few classics that I haven’t read but wish I did.

I’d like to make an effort to connect with the friends I do not see as often as I should. I think starting a girls night club (kind of like a book club minus the books) once a month is a great idea. Taking turns hosting something in each of our homes–a chance to connect and have a little fun.

I’d like to start putting money aside again this
year. Things were tough financially for most of the year and I dipped into my savings. I am working really hard toward only buying things I need right now, and I am thrilled that I can expect to make more in the coming months.

Find love
The past year was all about The Everygirl. I was able to completely devote myself to the launch without any distractions, and
then dive head-first into CrossFit. These two things are still obviously very important to me, but I feel like I’m finally ready for more. I’ve been living alone for 2.5 years and have created a great life here in Chicago. I’d just love someone to share it with. I know that it will happen when it should and that it might not be this year but I’m going to add this to the list anyway.

What are one or two of your big goals for the coming year?

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  • This is one of my favorite quotes. I have no doubt that this year will be even better than your (very big) last year! Can't wait to see all the great things you do.

  • I love the honesty of this post and your resolutions. You have a lot to be proud of for what you accomplished in 2012- and hey, we all have been there in terms of the relationship. The important thing is you were willing to take a risk, and you should be proud of that! I can't wait to see what's in store for you in 2013!

  • I love all your resolutions. You had such a big year last year and it is inspiring to see you always wanting even more. I'm excited to watch you fulfill all these goals 🙂 I want to be a more active individual! Dog walking, working out, taking hikes, whatever it may be – I want to DO more activities. If I lose a few lbs in the process, that would be nice too 😉

  • This is a great list Danielle! All the work that you all have put into TEG this past year definitely paid off 🙂 I'm with you, more than the resolutions I have my list of accomplishments for the year. This year, I really want to run a half marathon, be more adventurous in cooking, and, like you, find a little love too 🙂

  • I went through the same thing with a relationship this past year. I thought I'd be moving to Michigan after I graduated to start a new life with my ex, but that didn't work out. I had coffee with Crystal of Rue the other day and something she said really stuck with me– "there's something beautiful about having another chance to write your future". I just love that newfound hope. This year is a new start, with new goals and big dreams. You had such a wonderful 2012…I can't wait to see what you will do in 2013!

  • I am continually so impressed at how dedicated you are! These are great goals and they are all attainable. I really love your goals in relation to working out & crossfit. I share the same believe that strong is the new skinny and I am so excited for you that you will be working hard to become more healthy and strong! Also- saving money is huge. We all dont do enough of it. If you come across any good books on how to save/spend money- let me know! 🙂 All the best in 2013!

  • Those are great! My best friend and I started a Paleo challenge 12/31 and we are going to kind of do a 60 day challenge. Your post about yours really inspired us!