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On My Mind This Week: 12.21.21

10 Things: What’s On My Mind This Week 12.21.21

10 Things: What’s On My Mind This Week, 12.21.21

1. Let’s start this on a light note, because I have a lot of feelings today and this might get a little heavy.

Now that Succession is over, Conor and I were talking about needing a new show. It feels like we’ve watched everything. He said that we should take up a hobby and I’m not sure if he was serious but it hit me. I really do need a hobby and knew (instantly) what it needed to be!

Carly and Amy have inspired me to give needlepoint a try! I scoured Third Coast Stitches site since it’s a small, local shop, (recommended by Carly) and plan on placing an order online. This feels on-brand? Love this, too. I hope I enjoy it as much as I think I will, because I have a dream of making Christmas stockings for our family one day. 😬

2. Three days ago, we were $7000 away from having raised $250,000 for childhood cancer research and to help families through treatment.

I shared this post hoping that we might hit a quarter-million-dollars before the end of the year, but knew it was a long shot. After all, I had just raised $2500 when I offered to match up to $2500 for our hospital’s oncology department. But everyone was so generous (again), and we have now raised more than $258,300. I wasn’t sure $7k was going to happen, so $15,000 over the course of a weekend felt entirely off the table.

It was the boost I needed.

Fundraising changes nothing for my daughter. Margot’s treatment is set in stone, but we can make things better for other kids. Only 4% of government funding goes to our kids. Yes, our kids. This is the funding for your children if they are one of the 43 children diagnosed each day. Our kids deserve so much more. 

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Donate to Alex’s Lemonade Stand

3. It has been a hard week, but things are really good, too.

Does that even make sense? I’m struggling with where we are with the pandemic, all while being so happy that it’s Christmas time. Focusing on the good. I can’t wait for Christmas Day with my girls. Conor’s family is isolating for five days and then testing (PCR) so they can see us. I’m really looking forward to making Christmas breakfast together, baking, opening presents…all of it. I had to buy myself pink heart pajamas because Margot really wanted to order them for me. I jokingly said I wish I had them and she said “don’t worry mom, I’ll order them for you” so I’m letting her have that. 

4. It’s impossible not to feel discouraged by this new variant.

I’m sad and angry. Holiday cheer is helping make things feel a little better, but this sucks. It is a privilege to get to stay home and keep our girls safe. I get to order groceries for delivery, make our house feel cozy, don’t have to go into an office, and we have someone who is isolated help care for our girls. I take none of that for granted, but it’s hard not to feel like things could have played out a very differently with this pandemic.

March will mark two years of being mostly isolated. I haven’t eaten indoors at one restaurant that entire time. I’ve seen a handful of friends unmasked (after isolating).  I understand that our circumstances are different, but this has made treatment harder, scarier, and lonelier. It didn’t have to be this way. 

When cases were low I understood people living again, but it’s really hard to see people not taking this seriously when so many are getting sick. I see people hopping on planes with their unvaccinated kids and throwing parties like it’s nothing. Last weekend, I heard from half-a-dozen vaccinated, boosted people who all got COV*D.  A few even felt sick.

I’ve canceled anything that isn’t absolutely necessary, which means Margot won’t get to see Sing 2 in theaters.

We were renting a private theater, but even that no longer feels safe. I’m so glad we had our (masked) hotel stay last week, because it all feels scarier now. I canceled seeing my physical therapist yesterday even though he’s boosted and our sessions are masked in a private office. The occasional errands are once again, over for us. It is what it is, but sometimes, this feels never-ending. I know many of you have done a great job at being safe, but I wish everyone would take this seriously. 

5. On a much (much) lighter note, two months later, I finally shared our plans for our house project.

Are we moving in? Selling? Why did I wait so long to share? It’s all in this post.

6. I made the cutest and easiest holiday treat

7. Ok wait. One more kind of serious thing.

I’ve been thinking about a few (very few) comments that I received over the last few weeks and this has to be said. I will not engage with and will immediately delete rude comments. False accusations and judgement will not be tolerated. I’m all for asking questions, but can we just be kind to one another? My blog isn’t a public forum – it is a personal blog. I can’t and won’t stand for it.

Let this be a reminder: you deserve to be respected. Setting boundaries is always ok. 

8. Ok wait. More feelings, but this feels important since the holidays can be hard for some.

If you’ve been around for a while, you know I’ve been open about how some of my friendships have fallen apart the last year. This experience is obviously not unique to me, but I wanted to share this for those of you who may be feeling alone or aren’t in a great place with it. So many of us are going through it.

The moms in my support group have shared similar experiences, which normalized what I went through. Between talking to my support group, therapy, putting time into the friends I’m still close with, following Dr. Miriam Kirmayer (she’s a friendship expert and her content is so helpful!) and time, I started to feel a lot less sad. One day, something t clicked, and I stopped missing the people who weren’t there for me when I needed them most. Do I wish things were different? Of course. But I have some wonderful friends who I am still very close with, and those are the people who deserve my time and energy. 

If you’re struggling, there is hope. And as sad and lonely as it might feel, you are not alone. I’m in a completely different (much better!) place than I was even a month ago. It is ok and normal to grieve the end of a friendship. 

9. This is really random but my cuticles have been a mess, and my hands have been so dry.

I broke out my cuticle oil, body oil, and hand cream, and am committed to using them regularly again. I always use this serum on my face but forget about everything else. 

10. Kate keeps getting more and more fun.

She can name most of the ornaments on our tree. Tanta! (santa), howwww (house), ninne (minnie)! She knows her colors and even a few letters. Her dance moves keep getting better. She spins! And she really likes saying no. If Margot takes a toy from her she shakes her finger at Margot and says “no Go Go!” The snuggles are heaven, her laugh is infectious, and she’s the sweetest.

She also loves deddie (Jessie) so I had to order a second one of these because the constant tears were too much. Now both girls can carrie a Jessie around all. day. long. I swore I wouldn’t buy a second but it was nonstop.

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  • Hi Danielle – when you say “I wish everyone would take this seriously”, can you elaborate on what you think everyone (who is vaccinated and without high risk children) should do? Just curious what “seriously” means to you since everyone seems to have their own definition.

    1. Hi! Yes, of course.

      Before this new variant, it was safe for vaccinated people to gather (with their kids). We were able to do a few things masked, but only saw people masked indoors when they were completely isolated. I understood people living normally (safely) within reason.

      With this new variant, being vaccinated and boosted will keep YOU (the vaccinated adult) from getting very sick (or we hope – I have two friends who got pretty sick but avoided the hospital), but kids are now getting sick. I’ve heard of people who test positive still going out and even attending weddings. I follow someone who’s baby was sick in the ER with covid and their family is off to Europe. When I see people hopping on planes with their unvaccinated kids who are also unmasked (now, not months ago when #s were low and things were different) and taking them to restaurants, and gathering with people who are living normally, that feels pretty discouraging. It seems unnecessary and risky. I am very risk averse when it comes to health and always have been.

      Getting together with family members who are being safe (and testing!) is fine. We all need that! But big parties and large gatherings are not safe right now. I spoke with our oncology team this morning to confirm that our protocol felt safe, and it’s all unfolding. Our nurse sounded so discouraged. So much has changed since we were at clinic last Thursday.

      Again, I recognize that our circumstances are not normal and I can’t see this through the eyes of someone who was able to go back to normal since this started. I just think there’s a safe way to gather this Christmas. I can say without any uncertainty that if we weren’t in treatment, I would not see people who were living normally and would not be flying right now.

      I hope that clears things up.

      Happy Holidays!

      Danielle

      1. Hi Danielle, I feel for you in having a high risk child and I’m sure it’s absolutely awful to have to go to such extents to keep her safe. At the same time, people are allowed to do what they feel is necessary for themselves. Not sure if you follow Emily Oster, but she actually JUST posted about how she’d absolutely travel with a young child. We will be doing the same, and I’m extremely nervous about it, but we made the decision that feels best for our family. We are very safe and isolated these days, so posts and comments like this are not helpful at all.

      2. Hi. Thank you for empathizing. It’s so hard.

        Emily is an economist and not an infectious disease expert, so I don’t fully understand why /how she is an authority on covid and kids. Of course we all have to do what feels best for our families – there are times we take calculated risks. The timing with Christmas and Omicron is just horrible. I feel for families who were hoping for normalcy. We’re seeing family after a pretty strict protocol and PCR tests.

        I would not personally take the risk and travel, but I am extremely risk averse. Always have been. I understand you’re nervous, but this is just me sharing my opinion on my personal blog. I am not an expert or authority. It is my hope people will test and be careful, and it sounds like you’re traveling as safely as possible. I’m sorry my words did not feel helpful, but I am sharing what this looks like for us. I really do hope you stay safe and healthy this Christmas. And I’m sure you’ll be as safe as possible!

      3. I also want to add that if people are traveling, that’s not necessarily the unsafe thing. BUT if they choose to travel, testing before and after would be the way we can keep this from spreading. That sounds like a really safe option! If your family tests as well before getting together that’s huge, too!

      4. …Here is an email to subscribe to that will only bring you joy. https://gemmafoods.com/

        I saw you said that you have not been in a restaurant in 2 years :(. This pasta is better than any new Italian spot in Chicago. The owner was opening chef at Formentos and started Gemma Foods during the pandemic. Just know that you have to be quick when they email the menu out. I hope you enjoy!

    2. This is a good question! What is right for one family may not be right for another .

      1. Agreed! We have a child in treatment so our circumstances are different than most. At this point, we all need to consider that this is highly transmissible, and that unvaccinated children are not protected.

  • While we didn’t have the health challenges that you were fighting during Covid, we definitely took it seriously following all precautions and not seeing family. This new variant has us all worried again even though we are all vaccinated. It’s just so exhausting. Glad you have a plan for the Holidays so that you can enjoy family.

    I just purchased a few small canvases to start over the holidays, this will be a new hobby for me as well. These are two great accounts to follow on Instagram for needlepoint: @stlneedlepoint )does great lives to show new products), and @greystoneneedlepoint (they have a beginner stitch guide), you are fortunate to have a local shop to help you out as well.

    1. There is definitely a safe way to see family. Even we’ve been able to do that, but there’s a protocol to follow. It sound like you’ve taken it very seriously though. Thank you!

      Thanks for the needlepoint accounts to follow! I obviously won’t be visiting the store in-person for a while but maybe there will be an option to drop something to be finished curbside, or I’m sure I can send it in. Excited to try this!

      Happy Holidays!

  • I would highly recommend subscribing to Emily Oster’s Parent Data newsletter. I understand your family circumstances are different but there is actually very small risk with traveling with unvaccinated children. Emily is an economist at Brown and breaks down all the data in a fact-based, easy to understand way. It has been helpful for me navigating COVID with my own child who cannot be vaccinated.

  • I would highly recommend subscribing to Emily Oster’s Parent Data newsletter. I understand your family circumstances are different but there is actually very small risk with traveling with unvaccinated children. Emily is an economist at Brown and breaks down all the data in a fact-based, easy to understand way. It has been helpful for me navigating COVID with my own child who cannot be vaccinated.

  • I feel like we were so close to “normal” – as we await for the data to unfold from this newer variant, I think so many of us are experiencing a collective PTSD from March 2020. I don’t use that word lightly – a pandemic is traumatic!!! I’ve been taking deep breaths and remembering that we are in a much better spot than we were in 2020. Having said that though, my friends in healthcare are feeling really burnt out and are truly re-experiencing trauma from early days of the pandemic (anyone who says that that’s what they signed up for – no. No one signed up to work through a PANDEMIC which has never happened in most of our lifetimes)

    ANYWAY – someone I follow on social is currently undergoing treatment for lymphoma. She asked for people to do 2 things: 1) Stay home if you are positive or feeling sick and 2) Tell anyone you’ve been in contact with if you do test positive so that they can act for themselves appropriately.There should be no shame in a positive diagnosis at this point. People who are doing everything “right” can still get covid and a lot of people who do everything “wrong” get lucky and never get it.

    Thanks for opening up a space for us to share some of our own anxieties and respond to yours as well. Sending lots of holiday cheer!

    1. Hi. I couldn’t agree more. Major PTSD, especially for those of us who have been careful. We were doing pretty well, but some people chose not to get vaccinated and here we are. Everyone’s so burned out no, and no, NO ONE signed up for this. No one deserves this. Healthcare workers are so burned out.

      I think everyone should test before gathering at this point. It’s the least we can do.

      Stay safe this holiday season. Happy Holidays!

  • Danielle,
    I really like these posts! It’s great to hear what is on your mind! I am so excited to hear about your needlepoint journey! The past few years I have gotten into knitting, and it has been fun. Definitely a steep learning curve for me, made worse by covid because all the knitting stores were closed so it was hard to get help! But luckily tons of YouTube to help out. I’ve also been thinking about cross stitch or embroidery. Embroidery is sooo pretty!

    The COVID situation SUCKS. As someone who is working in the hospital right now, in the past few days the number of covid patients I have had has gone up EXPONENTIALLY. We have definitely seen some breakthrough cases but most are mild and even people who were exposed didnt get it, which is good. But the number of cases — It’s pretty wild, and scary. My best friend is an ICU physician and they were legit out of ventilators the other day. Ugh. Still seeing mostly unvaccinated people who have severe disease.

    In my family, we have been on the conservative side of things the entire time – although when cases were low we did increase our tolerance a bit. Now we have pulled back hard. It’s such a hard game of mental gymnastics – risk vs. reward. I think everyone has to make their own decisions regarding behaviors. I feel like IN GENERAL, if you vaccinate, mask responsibly indoors/crowded places I think life could be so much more normal for people. It’s really hard not to judge people’s decisions but I try to come from a place of compassion rather than a place of judgment. Like maybe the people traveling with their small kids have elderly or sick parents? Maybe they couldn’t go home to see their families because of the travel ban? Maybe they are traveling but will be isolated and are masking religiously? It’s so hard but I try not to put everyone in the irresponsible category, even though I’m sure some definitely deserve to be. I definitely get frustrated with people though (especially my family members who won’t vax no matter how much I plead!), and I would be much much much more frustrated if my kid’s health was at risk because of other people’s behaviors. Anyways, this was just me rambling in your comments but I just had some thoughts as well. Sending love! ~L

    1. Hi! Ohh embroidery would be so fun. I’ll see how needlepoint goes first.

      You are right. I COMPLETELY get people loosening the reigns especially over summer and fall. If we weren’t in treatment we would have been seeing vaccinated friends and I would have probably dined at restaurants (just us, not the kids). We would have been safe but have been able to live again.

      I did not mean to sound judgmental. Seeing family is more important than ever ever the last 18 months. I get that this is hard for EVERYONE. There are ways to do this and be safe, and I should have clarified that. Throwing a huge unmasked party without testing isn’t responsible. But asking everyone to test before gathering is safe. Making sure you’re safe after before going to work, school etc is also safe and smart. I think making the decision to be safe, test, make sure family tests, gather, and then test before seeing anyone else IS safe. That said, this is also now highly transmissible and babies can’t be masked, so that feels really, really scary to travel when others around you might not be as safe.

      It’s just so exhausting. There was no normal for us, and I know it’s not the vaccinated people that put us in this position. They did their part! It’s just not fair. Any of it.

      1. Totally – was not trying to say you were being judgmental. Agree with everything you said. More was reflecting on how I can be judgmental at first thought and then I try to see it from other perspectives. But yes, giant unmasked parties… I saw a gala in NYC that everyone was unmasked at… yikes!
        Hang in there! you are doing a great job!!!

      2. I can be that way, too, so I really value and appreciate everything you had to say 🤍 Happy holidays! Stay safe.

      3. Hello. I am curious as to your thinking/stance- do you believe if everyone were to be vaccinated, cvid would disappear? This is what I’m understanding you to say in the above reply and am asking for clarification. Happy Holidays

  • Just another comment on Emily Oster, definitely worth following/reading. Data driven decisions do make sense. I understand people “feel” x or y is safe or unsafe but many of those “feelings” are not borne out by the data. It sucks that we are in this situation. We as a family have taken certain calculated risks this year such as traveling with unvaccinated children to Europe while taking all possible precautions. I understand that we all have different circumstances to navigate. Merry Christmas!

  • Just another comment on Emily Oster, definitely worth following/reading. Data driven decisions do make sense. I understand people “feel” x or y is safe or unsafe but many of those “feelings” are not borne out by the data. It sucks that we are in this situation. We as a family have taken certain calculated risks this year such as traveling with unvaccinated children to Europe while taking all possible precautions. I understand that we all have different circumstances to navigate. Merry Christmas!

  • Acknowledging your privilege and then lamenting the fact that you can’t bring your daughter to a theater you rented out for just your family seems a little contradictory?

    1. This is what you took from the post and how you chose to reply to my feelings about having to isolate during a pandemic while my daughter goes through cancer treatment? That feels sad.

      Not lamenting but I have every right to. It’s fine – just an outing to give my daughter some normalcy since she’s spent almost half her life isolating and in treatment. Sharing an example of something that would have felt safe and isolated that no longer feels safe for my family.

      Please be kind to moms who are struggling through cancer treatment. It’s hard.

  • Why not just be explicit and talk about Alaina and the ending of that friendship in these posts? It feels like you’re using the unexplained demise of that relationship as clickbait whenever you do posts like this that reference the end of friendships; it’s obvious to read between the lines and know you’re speaking of Alaina, so why not just say it? You built a brand off the partnership of you and Alaina having a meet-cute, starting your website, and seeing it blossom. That narrative helped make The Everygirl successful (and profitable for you) so why deny everyone the real story of your fallout now that you’ve cashed out? It feels so disingenuous.

    1. Hi Jamie. I think it’s interesting that you didn’t ask if that’s who I’m talking about. Because it’s not. I would not lie and wouldn’t drag that on online.

      Is it obvious a partnerships ended? Sure.
      But I am talking about a few friendships that fell apart. I talk about it because it’s so common and can feel so lonely and painful.

      It’s also important to note that sometimes, people cannot share the whole story.

      I hope you’ll consider being a little kinder when someone shares that they’re struggling. Maybe ask before accusing?

    2. Obviously I don’t know what happened or if this is even relevant. Sometimes friendships end and that’s just the cycle of life. Throw in a business relationship and it’s a game changer.
      It’s not anyones fault but it may be you weren’t where the other person needed to be. Not a gotcha moment but life? I was engaged and super busy with my career and when my engagement fell apart so did a lot of my friendships. It wasn’t personal but I didn’t have the space for them and their (relevant) drama because I thought mine was more.
      While a good question, I just think we should acknowledge that friendships fall apart out of no fault and a cancer diagnosis is huge and changes your perspective

      1. Yes! Just said that in instagram stories. It’s not about the friends or how/why things fell apart. Friendships end/change and it’s lonely, so I talk about it because it helps me when others talk about it. It’s more common than ever with this pandemic and friends often disappear during trauma (like treatment) – something I talk about with my friends who are in treatment. It happens! and it’s normal.

  • Hi Danielle! First, just wanted to wish a happy and healthy holiday to you and your family.

    I rarely leave comments anywhere on the internet, but after reading so many recommendations here from others suggesting that you look to Emily Oster for medical and risk assessment advice, I felt compelled to comment.

    Everyone: Please keep in mind that Emily Oster is not a public health expert or a doctor. Yes, she’s a very smart economist and a pro at crunching the data that is available. But not all the data that we need to know re: covid is available, and there are many respected doctors in the medical community who take issue with her guidance.

    My personal story: This summer, I was on the fence about flying for a vacation — my first time doing much of ANYTHING since covid began. But after reading everything Emily Oster had to say about air travel and her statement that it is extremely low risk for a fully vaxxed person like myself to fly, I decided to give it a shot. I did everything right; double masked with kn95, never removed it, distanced, etc. Of course, I got a breakthrough case of covid and the only time in my entire exposure window when I could have gotten it was while flying.

    When the contact tracers from the health department/CDC called me, I told them that I had flown in the exact window that I would have contracted covid. They did not make any note of this; they did not ask my flight number or airport or itinerary. I asked the contact tracer why she didn’t need this info, and she said they weren’t tracking it — but anecdotally, she hears from people getting sick after flying all the time.

    I reached out to Emily Oster multiple times to tell her what happened with the CDC and ask how she (or anyone) can be so sure that air travel is safe when it’s not even being tracked. I asked if anyone can really be sure that a complete absence of data can be taken as a sign that flying safe (her reasoning was basically “if it was dangerous, we would know”). No response after multiple attempts reaching out to bring this to her attention. I understand she can’t answer every inquiry, but this feels like an important conversation considering how pro-air travel she is. I was shocked when I saw her recommending flying with unmasked, unvaxxed children just tonight.

    While I think Emily does a great job of analyzing certain issues — especially when there’s a ton of data available over a longer period of time — I don’t think she should be anyone’s go-to source on a rapidly developing public health crisis. To everyone making decisions in the best interest of their families: Please seek advice from multiple sources, especially public health experts.

    Happy holidays to all!

  • I understand wanting to mitigate the risk and the fact that most people don’t take this seriously is feustrating to say the least.

    That said – weren’t you just at a hotel with your severely immunocompromised daughter? Doesn’t matter if you were masked and distanced, the new variant is very much contagious regardless of vaccination and safety precautions. I’m just curious why you felt it was worth the risk?

    1. Yes. It was something we talked about with our oncology team to give her some normalcy. We were in Kn95s and went right up to our room. Didn’t go near anyone. Never shared an elevator, went on a weekday, and hotel wasn’t crowded. Room service was left at the door. Walking around downtown for a little felt ok too.

      She’s also not “severely” immunocompromised.

      I wish people would find a way to be a little kinder and a little more empathetic.

      1. I apologize if this triggered you, but according to the CDC’s website, they define “severely immunocompromosed” as someone who is going through active treatment for cancers of the blood.

      2. I appreciate the apology. It didn’t trigger me – I have spoken at length with our oncology team and she isn’t “severely” immunocompromised. Not about the label. Is she immunocompromised? Yes. But it’s really not severe when compared to those who are severely compromised.

        I put so much energy into keeping Margot safe. So much energy. Writing out strict protocols and going over every single thing we do with her team to mitigate risk and keep her out of the hospital.

      3. I know you do, I hope I didn’t imply otherwise. You’re a good mom. Hang in there.

  • Thank you for this post. I’m also a mother of a child with was a compromised immune system, I feel this so much. Our family’s threshold for risk does not align with many of our friends and family members, which has put a strain on many relationships. My level of anxiety and stress to keep my daughter safe is on another level, even among my friends who have exercised a lot of caution throughout this pandemic. I also follow Emily Oster, I loved and read her first two books and appreciate her data driven approach on many aspects of parenting, however I find that most of her recommendations surrounding covid are for healthy, non-high risk individuals. This is not my family. We listen to our child’s doctors and nurses and ultimately for us, “low risk” still means there is some risk that my daughter could end up sick, which means a trip to the hospital. The risk may be low, but the stakes are very high for my daughter. I’ve had so many well-meaning people in my life recommend her research, usually when I’m explaining why we are declining an activity and I feel like I have to justify our more rigid boundaries. I wish some of my friends and family could know just how agonizing some of these little decisions can be and how hard it is to feel like your child is missing out on these experiences. Declining invitations or not participating in certain activities with my daughter is enormously difficult. The same goes for the rare times we say “yes” to an experience outside our home. Feeling that you need to justify your decision to others is awful. The amount of time and consideration that goes into saying “yes” as a parent of a vulnerable child is staggering. It’s hard when those close to you (or strangers on the internet!) are asking for explain yourself, when so much thought (and likely stress/anxiety!) has gone into that decision.

    Thank you for the reminder that setting boundaries is okay. I wish you and your family a happy and healthy 2022!

    1. I relate to all of this and agree with everything you said. So sorry this is hitting your family so hard, too 💔 Stay safe! I hope you have a very Merry Christmas.

  • I’m also feeling so sad about the current state of things, but I wonder if there isn’t a bit more room for assuming the best of people. Certainly there are people making choices that feel insensitive and “wrong,” based on the uptick in cases. But also, people are making hard choices to do what’s right for their family. Last year I had a newborn and a raging case of postpartum anxiety. I am high risk and my mom is a nurse who does work with Covid patients and lives 11 hours away. We made the decision that she would travel to stay with our family for a week to help me cope. It might not have been the “safest” decision because we were not yet vaccinated, but it was one with my and my daughter’s well-being in mind. I am a counselor and believe I might have been hospitalized otherwise. It’s understandable to feel frustrated, but kindness goes both ways and a lot of us are just doing the best we can with the resources we have.

    1. Hi Tricia,

      I empathize so much and am sorry you went through that. I really was just sharing what it feels like to be a mom going through cancer treatment (and a mom of a new baby) during a pandemic. Kate was born June 2020, 6 weeks after diagnosis so really, I do empathize.

      What you did was the safest option to get help. My sister isolated and flew here last fall when things looked better.. Flying with a newborn during covid and cold and flu wouldn’t be as safe, but having a masked grandparent come support you doesn’t sound like a careless decision at all. I get that we have to consider our mental health but people don’t need to throw huge parties without testing. That’s really the issue. And this is highly transmissible so I am shocked that some people are still traveling with their unvaccinated kids. Can’t really wrap my mind around it but again, just a mom going through what I am, and sharing how it feels for me.

  • Hi Danielle! Thanks for taking the time to share what’s on your mind with us. I admit that I am a little confused by your shock at people traveling with their unvaccinated kids. From everyone I have read, Covid, and particularly the omicron variant, isn’t really that dangerous for kids. I understand that your circumstances are different, but I don’t understand the judgement around other people making the choices that they feel are best.

    1. Hi Roni,

      Thank you for the comment and for sharing your thoughts respectfully. I really appreciate it. I understood people traveling when cases were low, but this is highly transmissible, cases have really spiked, and kids aren’t dying but they’re getting pretty sick. Like I said, I am very risk averse with the health of my kids and have always been that way. So yes, I definitely feel surprised by how casual some people are being.

    2. Agree! I was about to post the same. We have a healthy toddler and are not traveling this year but it’s not related to Covid. I will still be taking her places around town because her risk of severe illness due to Covid is very very low.

  • Hi Emma. I am obviously not an expert, but we would be much closer to reaching herd immunity.